In the serve accept dynamic, the question asked is "will you touch my hand and arm, in ways that feel good for me?"
The person doing the touch is setting aside their their desires, but remains responsible for the limits of what they are willing to offer.
The person who is being touched is practicing noticing and communicating their desires, asking moment by moment for whatever would feel really great.
The demo ends with a sharing of what was experienced in the practice.
Up Next in Introduction to the Wheel of Consent
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Serve Accept - Guided Practice Space
A guided practice space of 10 minutes, for you and another person to experience one round of the serve accept dynamic.
If you both agree to, you can play the video again so that you get a chance to experience both serve and accept. -
Drawing The Wheel
WHO IS DOING, AND WHO IS IT FOR?
These 2 questions, lead to 4 possible quadrants for each of which a different agreement is required.
Looking at all four quadrants of the wheel.
Looking at the four halves of the wheel.
A few final words from Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel of Consent. -
Further Learning Resources
What did you notice about the quadrants and your own experiences of them?
The benefits of learning the Wheel of Consent in a group.
Links for further learning.
