Who we are and about the course:
Rupert J Alison and Rose C Jiggens.
This is a video version of a live course we have been running together since 2018.
Sections of the course:
How the wheel of consent fits into other models of consent.
A solo touch practice.
A partnered touch practice - the may I...

A series of statements to explore consent culture as it is in everyday life. If you struggle with consent, you are not alone.

A definition of consent.
Examples of social consent, medical consent, online consent, relationship consent, physical touch consent, sexual consent.
Some common reasons why consent isn't always straightforward.
Sexual consent - a brief history from the 1970s onwards.
Some quotes about consent from...

Betty Martin developed the Wheel of Consent:

It helps people to notice, and communicate, what kind of touch they want and what feels good.
The wheel of consent is a model that clarifies consent agreements in all areas of life.
Its also an embodied practice to help us tune into our bodies and not...

Waking the Hands: a solo practice to explore our own relationship with our sense of touch.
Focusing on whats happening inside of your skin.
Three things that make the practice click!

The core practice of awakening your hands: an 8 minute practice video guiding you into awakening the pleasure in your own hands.

Waking the hands is a practice.
Your hands hold the possibility to be very sensitive!
Rewiring neural pathways.
Improving the quality of your touch.
Whatever happens in the practice is ok, its all part of the practice.
The practice may reveal your basic relationship with pleasure.
Wake up your fe...

Moving from waken the hands - a solo practice - to touching another person, we need consent!
Who is doing something and who is it for?
An example of what can happen when these two questions aren't clarified.
These two questions open up different kinds of consent agreements, which can be explored ...

In the take allow dynamic, the question asked is "may I touch your hand and arm, in ways that feel good for me?"
The person doing the touch is putting their desires first, exploring "what feels really good and nice for me?"
The person who is being touched is putting their desires to one side, whi...

A guided practice space of 12 minutes, for you and another person to experience one round of the take allow dynamic.
If you both agree to, you can play the video again so that you get a chance to experience both take and allow.

In the serve accept dynamic, the question asked is "will you touch my hand and arm, in ways that feel good for me?"
The person doing the touch is setting aside their their desires, but remains responsible for the limits of what they are willing to offer.
The person who is being touched is practic...

A guided practice space of 10 minutes, for you and another person to experience one round of the serve accept dynamic.
If you both agree to, you can play the video again so that you get a chance to experience both serve and accept.

WHO IS DOING, AND WHO IS IT FOR?  

These 2 questions, lead to 4 possible quadrants for each of which a different agreement is required.
Looking at all four quadrants of the wheel.
Looking at the four halves of the wheel.
A few final words from Betty Martin, the creator of the Wheel of Consent.

What did you notice about the quadrants and your own experiences of them?
The benefits of learning the Wheel of Consent in a group.
Links for further learning.